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Flirting
Honesty
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The Ladder Theory
The Dominance of Infidelity
The Illusion of Love; The Ninety Day Theory
Past, Present and Future; The Emotional Evolution
Goodbye; The Blessing
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I know that we all want to believe in love at first sight or love in general. However far too many times we have the very bad habit of “knowing” that we have found our soul mate, when in fact we have only found someone with whom to mate. Be careful; lions mate, as animals lack reasoning and are driven purely by instinct. Sadly, we as humans have the ability to reason as well as to enter into a “courtship”, but too often bargain away courtship for the illusion of love. I know that the term courtship is somewhat old and outdated. However, the principles and validity of a courtship period are as pertinent today, if not more so, as they were centuries ago. Human beings, as blessed as we are, are unique. We have souls and it is the soul that drives us to want, and seek out our soul mate.
Too often our desire to find that other half, manifests itself in the illusion of love. The Ninety Day Theory is probably the best example of this. The Ninety Day Theory concerns that blissful period in a relationship when all is beautiful and new, when neither partner can do wrong and all we want to do is call, be with or see our significant other.
The Ninety Day Theory is arguably the finest phase of any relationship. This is the phase when we want to do nothing other than tell to our friends about the new person in our life, and how they “might be the one”. We don’t stop to think that perhaps we have yet to truly meet this new object of our affection. The illusion of love is the perpetual first date that never ends; the first date that goes on and on for ninety days or more, in which each potential soul mate seeks to do all that he or she can to attract the other.
While it may be the finest, this may also be the most dangerous
phase of any relationship. Ninety days is not enough time to
sufficiently know your potential mate’s present, let alone their
past, so why would any rational human being risk their future on
an enigma? The answer to this rests with our soul, the soul that
drives us to yearn, and seek our soul mate. The allure of the Ninety Day Theory is so great that we often see a soul mate when we are truly viewing an emotional waste!
Even unsuccessful relationships can make one a better individual. There are those that believe we leave a little piece of our selves behind in every relationship. I am not in a position to say whether they are right or wrong. I can simply say that I prefer to believe that we learn from each relationship thereby becoming better suited for the one that is our soul mate.
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