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The ladder theory is applicable to any relationship involving two or more individuals. A person once asked me a riddle: “If two people are carrying a ladder, who is the leader?” Desperately searching for an answer, I gave multiple responses, all of them wrong. After being thoroughly amused, he began to explain to me that if two people are working together (e.g. a relationship), the leader is the individual who takes the initiative to direct and properly complete the task at hand. The position of the individuals relative to front and back is irrelevant; it is making the partnership work that is important, not their perceived position.
After marveling at this obvious yet profound insight, I began to really think about
this revelation. Relationships are not about leading and following. However if you are concerned if your partner too frequently takes the initiative without giving adequate consideration to you and your needs, you may want to examine the times when you decided to let your partner make decisions for you and how those decisions mad you feel. If this is something that bothers you or something that you are the least bit uncomfortable with, you may want to talk about this with your partner. If you do not communicate your discomfort with your partner, your discomfort will continue to fester which can manifest itself in physical difficulties and or emotional withdrawal.
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